NoPicklez 9 minutes ago

Crazy, I went to boarding school 2009-2011 and our dinner hall was always loud with talking and laughter. However sometimes it would slowly get quieter until the room went silent with everyone looking oddly at each other, then a massive wave of laughter would erupt.

Some weird phenomenon.

I also remember downloading Froggy jump on my iPhone and playing it with friends, but you certainly put your phone away more than you do now. You also had it taken off of you if you were on it when you shouldn't have been. If my parents found out they took my phone off of me, they'd probably crack it at me because I wasn't paying attention. I get the feeling many parents might just get angry at the teacher rather than their child.

chis 9 hours ago

It's so insane that they let things go this far. It could have been immediately obvious to those involved that cell phones in class would have immensely negative effects. I mean they talk about a lunch room "quiet enough to hear a pin drop"??

I think I learned half my basic social skills from lunch rooms in school. That time period is probably more important than any of the classes themselves.

  • SchemaLoad 8 hours ago

    I feel like we have had a long history of overreacting to new things. "D&D is the devil", "Rock music is evil", etc. But we have just encountered one of the rare times where something new actually was harmful. But it rolled in so rapidly that it was universal before we had the chance to push back.

    I think chatbots and AR glasses are going to supercharge these social problems at a rate much faster than phones and facebook ever could.

    • hamdingers 6 hours ago

      > But it rolled in so rapidly that it was universal before we had the chance to push back.

      This can't be it. I was in high school when smartphones were coming out and there was zero tolerance for them or any other electronic devices (dumbphones, ipods, palm pilots, etc) in the classroom.

      I don't know when or why it happened but allowing smartphones in school was a conscious choice and a policy change.

      • zhivota 2 hours ago

        Pretty simple really, we're basically all [1] addicted to smartphones, so we basically all [1] advocated for this. After all, to admit it was a problem for our kids, we'd have to also admit it could be a problem for ourselves.

        Even I find myself holding onto my phone during most of the day when not on my computer, I don't even know why. It's an incredibly addictive piece of technology.

        [1] - to a first order of approximation, yes I know you're the exception

      • pessimizer 6 hours ago

        Upper-middle class parents addicted to constant communication with their children started complaining about their kid's not being allowed to carry their phones, nearly at the level of implying it was a human rights violation. They combined this with worries about school shootings (that cellphones haven't ever helped with to my knowledge, unless having live recordings of children being murdered is help.)

        After they got it, it was instantly allowed everywhere. It was another result of the "activism" of the same suburban let me speak to your manager class that has been ruining everything for the past 20 years.

        edit: A lot of parents are constantly texting back and forth with their kids all day. It's basically their social media, especially if they don't have any friends, and I bet in plenty of cases a huge burden to the children.

        • thelock85 3 hours ago

          This.

          Schools are not employers that can implement take it or leave it policies. You need coordination and agreement between school leadership, district leadership, staff, and most critically parents to put your foot down on anything while also working to ensure basic safety and decent academic outcomes.

          Now that the ills of social media and screen time are mainstream knowledge, it’s easier to make a common sense argument without much pushback.

        • p00dles 3 hours ago

          Ugh this is so tragic but I think correct

      • paulddraper 5 hours ago

        Agreed.

        There existed a period of time where handheld communication devices existed and were banned.

        Sometime later, someone somewhere made a conscious choice to change policy. It didn’t just happen.

        • therein 5 hours ago

          > someone somewhere

          Must have been a powerful person.

          • obscurette 36 minutes ago

            They were. I was there in edu conferences, training sessions and other events years ago and could observe all this massive FUD which appeared – "smartphones are the future", "all communication will be in social media in the future", "books will not matter", "privacy will not matter", "if we ban smartphones, we will handicap our children" etc. People didn't know better and there was genuine fear in education. Or actually, it's still very much there.

    • dghlsakjg 7 hours ago

      Sports gambling is astoundingly popular for teen boys. Already the prevalence of zero sum games like crypto and day trading was getting to be too trendy for teenagers, and this shit just supercharges it.

      • fn-mote 5 hours ago

        > prevalence of zero sum games like crypto and day trading

        Calling day trading “zero sum” seems like a huge stretch. To get the sum to be zero you need to include everyone involved in the market: institutional investors, hedge funds, etc. Somewhere between 87 and 95 percent of day traders lose money.

        • SchemaLoad 3 hours ago

          There's so many of these absurd "investing" trends where financially illiterate people are getting tricked in to buying in to schemes where the only way to win is to be one of the insiders. Or more recently, the Counter Strike skin "investing" where a single change from a company can wipe out all of your investment.

          Had you bought actual regulated shares you could sue the company for deliberately crashing the value. But since video game skins are not a real investment. You have no protections at all.

    • Melatonic 5 hours ago

      I think it will eventually settle into a net positive - we're just in the Wild West of smartphones still.

      I try to use my phone less and less but as someone who loves photography the ability to take a raw photo and edit on my phone is amazing.

      • SchemaLoad 3 hours ago

        I think it won't automatically settle in a good state. We need to actively work towards it. Phones obviously have many useful and beneficial functions, photography, phone calls, etc. It's the engagement hacking from social media primarily which has broken society.

    • echelon 7 hours ago

      > But we have just encountered one of the rare times where something new actually was harmful.

      Next let's ban kids from social media.

      Or better yet, let's tax social media as a negative externality. Anything with an algorithmic feed, engagement algorithm, commenting/voting/banning, all hooked up to advertising needs to pay to fix the harm it's causing.

      They're about as bad as nicotine and lung cancer. They've taken people hostage and turned society against itself.

      > I think chatbots and AR glasses are going to supercharge these social problems at a rate much faster than phones and facebook ever could.

      Chatbots aren't smart and AR glasses are dorky. They're going to remain niche for quite some time.

      iPhone immediately caught on like wild fire. You can tell those other two don't have the same spark. I'm not saying there won't be users, but it's a much smaller population.

      • drivebyhooting 5 hours ago

        I agree but you have to tone down the rhetoric otherwise you won’t persuade anyone who isn’t already convinced.

        It’s telling that none of the tech CEOs allow their children to use their wares.

      • someNameIG 6 hours ago

        > Next let's ban kids from social media.

        We are here in Australia from the 10th December this year.

        • SchemaLoad 5 hours ago

          I'm interested to see where this goes. I don't like how it's likely reducing privacy the internet. But social media is obviously a threat so serious that it might be worth the costs.

          I've also been thinking that perhaps social media platforms should start displaying some kind of indicator when a poster is from out of your country. So when foreign troll farms start political posting you can see more clearly they aren't legitimate. I suspect that social media is largely to blame for the insane politics of the world right now.

      • iknowstuff 7 hours ago

        ChatGPT "caught on fire" faster than iPhones.

        • Dusseldorf 5 hours ago

          It absolutely did not. ChatGPT is free to use and most people I know have barely engaged with it beyond a few queries once or twice to try it.

          When the iPhone came out, nearly everyone I knew dumped hundreds of dollars to get one (or a droid) within 2 years.

          • lukan 3 hours ago

            "and most people I know have barely engaged with it beyond a few queries once or twice to try it."

            Have you recently spoken with the younger generation still in school?

            I doubt you find many there who just "have barely engaged with it". It is just too useful for all the generic school stuff, homework, assignments, etc.

          • bdangubic 5 hours ago

            “most people I know” argument always wins :)

            most people I know spend $500+/month and use ai 8-10/hrs per day

          • hunter-gatherer 5 hours ago

            Agree. The conversation behind "adoption" was totally different as well. I was a young Army private when the first iPhone was announced. Before that I remember the iPod touch and other MP3 players beingthe rage in the gym and what not. I distinctly remember in the gym we were talking about the iPhone, my friend had an iPod touch and we took turns holding it up to our faces like a phone, and sort of saying "weird, but yeah, this would work".

            Point being, when smart phones came out it there was anticipation of what it might be, sort of like a game console. ChatGPT et al was sort of sudden, and the use case is pretty one dimensional, and for average people, less exciting. It is basically a work-slop emitter, and _most people I know_ seem to agree with that.

        • echelon 2 hours ago

          I assumed the OP meant chat agents like Character.ai, not ChatGPT.

    • thatfrenchguy 6 hours ago

      I mean, "cigarettes are the devil", especially for teenagers also have stuck.

  • mjbale116 2 hours ago

    Here's a couple of arguments I had to deal with whilst expressing my support for electronics ban at schools including a blanket social media ban:

    1) "Since when do we consider it OK for the government to intervene between the parents and their children and telling them whats good and whats not? They know best."

    2) "Whoever does not want to use electronics at school grounds are free to do so who are we to constrain them? Also, forbidding things never works let them learn."

    3) "I think you are underestimating children; if they see that what they are doing with electronics affects them in any way, they will stop using them. Lets give them some credit and let them make their mistakes."

    All of which are anti phone-ban/anti-regulation/pro-liberal/freemarketeering masquerading as a product of independent thought.

    • ForgetItJake 2 hours ago

      > All of which are anti phone-ban/anti-regulation/pro-liberal/freemarketeering masquerading as a product of independent thought.

      I don't see what you're saying. Are you saying people must think the same things as you do for it to be independent thought?

      • mjbale116 37 minutes ago

        > I don't see what you're saying. Are you saying people must think the same things as you do for it to be independent thought?

        Indeed you don't; let me help you out then:

        Arguments must be made in good faith; and when you hear anyone saying anything I mentioned above it is immediately obvious that they are not arguing in good faith.

        If they think they are, then their decision making centre is compromised by cnbc and fox news and their opinion must be dismissed.

        If anyone considers the above arguments valid and worthy of discussion, they need to exempt themselves from this discourse.

  • 1659447091 an hour ago

    > I think I learned half my basic social skills from lunch rooms in school. That time period is probably more important than any of the classes themselves.

    I was trying to relate, and thinking until around 7th grade school lunch was a pretty awful lonely experience. But then remembered 2nd/3rd year of middle school finding the other outcast that somehow came together as our own little group of enterprising odd-balls.

    We would buy large packs of gum (we sold for $.10-$.25 a piece), champion-caliber pencils (we tested a bunch playing a lot of pencil-break[0], sold for $.50-$1+), ping-pong balls/paddles (we had raggedy ping-pong tables near the food-court for before/after school and lunch that the cool kids didn't use so eventually other kids would rent/trade-for balls/paddles from us once we started playing) etc.

    I think the biggest thing we did was start and run table/paper-football[1] games/tournaments; sometimes offering our perfectly-folded-winning paper-footballs or champion-level pencils or packs of gum, to make it exciting.

    First we used the table we sat at for lunch, then noticing how shunned the un-cool ping-pong tables were, we turned them into paper-football fields (the green colour and white border lines made it that much more awesome as a paper-football field). We started playing before/after school and during lunch. We started doing ping-pong games too in one of the 3 time slots -- I think before school but maybe lunch I forget. But, I mean, this was Texas -- football is football -- we started drawing crowds and people were mixing outside their cliques wanting to get in on playing games (note: these were latchkey kid days in the south, the main groups looked like something out of prison movies; but we were a mixed sort of popular-group rejects, male & female)

    Anyway, I would have to agree it was an important time for the foundation of my basic social skill set (never thought of it that way before). As much as I value that time and experience -- to be fair -- these kids are figuring it out in a different way for the world they live in. I've chalked up my dislike of watching my siblings kids being perfectly content to not get up from the couch/phone for hours at a time, as me being old.

    [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pencil_fighting

    [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paper_football

  • bogwog 6 hours ago

    I wonder how long until they do the same to AI in schools?

    • fn-mote 5 hours ago

      How in the world would you keep AI out of schools?

      Ok, turn off the internet. And ban the cell phones.

      I suppose a district could block the known AI providers, so kids could only use AI at home. I’m very skeptical this would eliminate the negatives.

      On the contrary, every administrator I know of is gung-ho about the coming improvements in education driven by AI. (There certainly are SOME, but it comes with minuses.)

      • dingnuts 4 hours ago

        most instruction can and should be done without computers. and ban cell phones.

        • falkensmaize 3 hours ago

          This 1000%. When my wife was a teacher she would often comment on what a huge distraction chromebooks and tablets were. Most of the things being learned through high school do not require a computer and do not benefit from them. Added to that, having kids spend 40 hours a week away from screens is a huge bonus.

  • davnicwil 7 hours ago

    I think the operative word here is 'let'.

    The actual levers of control available to those in charge in schools are limited, in the end.

    The rules that exist are routinely broken and can only be enforced selectively. Many of the rules are unpolicable frankly and are only kept to or only marginally broken as a matter of social norms, and understanding so there is not total choas. An equilbrium is found.

    With phones there's such social pressure to allow their use, including from forces external to the school, that there was never possibly a hope of the equilibrium immediately settling at phones being banned.

    It was always going to creep to the current status quo. Again this would have been true even if a rule were ostensibly set.

    Society is learning, slowly, that this isn't ideal, and the pendulum seems to be swinging back. It may settle at phones being completely banned in schools, but in practice this will also obviously be moderately chipped away at all the time in various surprising and unsurprising ways. Especially as the hardware itself evolves.

    • zdragnar 6 hours ago

      > With phones there's such social pressure to allow their use, including from forces external to the school, that there was never possibly a hope of the equilibrium immediately settling at phones being banned.

      Phones, and electronic devices in general, were always banned. What changed was schools started allowing them.

      I was in high school right when some kids first started getting (dumb) cell phones. MP3 players were still new, CD players were not uncommon, and ALL of them were banned from being outside of your locker or backpack. If a teacher saw one, it was gone until the end of the day. Period.

      Teachers didn't need to bear the brunt of angry parents, it wasn't their call to make. That belonged to the school administrator, who merely needed to say "tough shit". Somehow, the adult children still won anyway.

  • mensetmanusman 6 hours ago

    Everyone went all in on tech during Covid. NYC schools were one of the slowest to recover and are still dealing with the knock on effects.

  • HeinzStuckeIt 9 hours ago

    > I think I learned half my basic social skills from lunch rooms in school

    What a lot of people learn from lunch rooms is not a happy social lesson. It’s who is allowed to sit where, and who is outcast from a table. It’s the shit teenagers lower on the social hierarchy have to take daily from teenagers who are higher, even if they are allowed to sit at the same table. High school is widely remembered as a brutal rite of passage, and lunch rooms are as much a part of that as any other space. If everyone was so absorbed in their phones, that may have been a benefit for social harmony and escaping real-life bullying and shaming.

    • TheOtherHobbes 7 hours ago

      The bullying is still there, it's just moved online. If anything it's easier for the perpetrators, because they can hide behind anonymity, or create humiliating deepfakes - and so on.

      The problem isn't phones, it's the addictivisation of social media and gaming. Being able to stay in touch with friends and family is potentially a good thing.

      But it's currently implemented as a hook for psychological and chemical addiction, so that user attention can be sold to advertisers.

      That is a problem, and I think we're starting to see a movement which will eventually end with these platforms being banned, or strictly regulated at the very least.

      It's basically casino psychology applied to all social interactions. That is clearly not a good or healthy thing.

      • SchemaLoad 2 hours ago

        What seems likely is addiction mechanisms and social media will end up banned for kids. Loot boxes and daily login rewards banned from games, etc. Proof of age will be required for social media.

    • justonceokay 8 hours ago

      Learning where you fit in the social hierarchy and attempting to navigate that hierarchy is more important than anything you’ll learn in math class. Even if it is embarrassing. It’s not like you graduate high school and then the bullies go away.

      • throwaway150 8 hours ago

        That's quite a claim. I'm not sure I buy it. We never had all this lunchroom social drama growing up, and my old mates and I seem to be doing just fine.

        Maybe you feel that navigating social hierarchy is more important than anything in math is because that's the kind of culture you happened to grow up in, not because it's truly more important?

      • squigz 8 hours ago

        Generally, once you leave high school, you have a lot more choice in when/where you are forced to interact with bullies.

        • ryandrake 7 hours ago

          The exception being work, where a lot of people seem like they never left high school. Everywhere I've worked had the social totem pole, the cliques, the politics, the in-crowd and out-crowds. One place I worked was almost exactly like the movie Mean Girls. Lots of people just don't grow out of it.

          • lmm 7 hours ago

            Worst case you can switch jobs. It's not easy, but it's a lot easier than switching schools.

        • LtWorf 7 hours ago

          Also, bullying in school has no consequences, but outside it might have some.

          • squigz 7 hours ago

            Bullying in school absolutely has consequences, and they're mostly going to be much farther-reaching than those suffered as an adult - getting messed up psychologically is more impactful as a kid, not to mention any physical toll it takes, or the impact of it on one's education.

            • ironSkillet 6 hours ago

              I think the user means that bullies in school face little consequences, but a bully at work may get called by HR and potentially disciplined.

              • squigz 6 hours ago

                Oh fair enough. My apologies Mr Worf. I don't fully agree - plenty of shitty behavior gets ignored (or even encouraged) even in a workplace - but there's definitely some truth here.

    • supportengineer 7 hours ago

      PE class being the other one where bullies thrive, and prey on the sensitive, intelligent, thoughtful kids. The coaches look the other way because they want the "win".

    • badc0ffee 6 hours ago

      I always hear this from Americans. My experience in Canada is that the bullying and shaming was limited to junior high (grade 7-9 in my province). Maybe my high school was just too large for any of that nonsense? Or maybe the culture is different - I couldn't have told you who was on the football team, and there was no prom.

      All my friends were nerds, but at the same time I didn't feel like there was some brutal social order hanging over me like I did in jr high.

      • fyrn_ 4 hours ago

        I think age cohortand school makes a difference. Personally I had a perfectly fine time in highschool, most people just got along. Same problems as other posters though, it's just anecdote, and a heavily biased sampling (pretty decent chunk of CS people with poor social skills)

    • psunavy03 8 hours ago

      Both of these are different failure modes of adults to parent and/or mentor children. Just because A and B are both bad does not mean C is not a potentially better place to be. Just because lazy teachers and staffers tell kids "you have to learn to fight your own battles" does not make social media A-OK.

    • serf 6 hours ago

      >What a lot of people learn from lunch rooms is not a happy social lesson.

      valuable lessons don't necessarily overlap with happy.

      a kid leaves the gate open until his dog is ran over, it doesn't happen again after that with the new dog.

    • virgil_disgr4ce 8 hours ago

      Avoidance: the cause of, and solution to, all of life's problems

    • woodpanel 8 hours ago

      The point you're making is important and I can already see how many, once years out of school, are able to re-frame their memories into something that bullying wasn't so bad and it's actually a social good, etc. It's as if the return-to-office-policies bringing back bullying/sexual harrassement to one's work environment would be hailed as a chance to improve one's social skills. Ridiculous.

      I do think though that it's worth discerning here: We don't need to accept a world in which we have to decide between apathetic children stuck to tiny screens and daily traumas. Both things are evil, and in both cases it's a testament to lack of care our education systems have for us/children.

      • LtWorf 7 hours ago

        I don't think they're reframing. They weren't bullied or were the bullies themselves.

        • koolba 6 hours ago

          Or there simply weren’t any bullies.

          Not everybody’s childhood played out like Lord of the Flies.

    • SR2Z 9 hours ago

      Asociality is not the same thing as social harmony. It's not better for children if their shithead peers are replaced with smartphones.

      The unfortunate truth is that cliquey behavior and bullying are some of things that children have to be exposed to - you won't come out of school as a fully-capable human being unless you've spent the last several years being exposed to a ton of different adult emotions.

      • HeinzStuckeIt 8 hours ago

        That high school is necessarily a place of cliquey behavior and bullying, and that kids may even benefit from it, is not a universal thing. In some countries, viewers of imported American TV shows are baffled by that depiction of high school, because in their high schools there aren’t such hard knocks.

        • tuckerman 8 hours ago

          I agree with you, American schools seem particularly bad at breeding these sorts of unhealthy dynamics, and we shouldn't accept it as normal. But even in a better environment, unstructured social interaction with peers still seems like a useful part of growing up/socialization and shouldn't be replaced with kids sucked into their phones.

      • squigz 8 hours ago

        It might be better if those shithead peers are replaced with supportive peers who happen to be elsewhere in the world.

        • SR2Z 5 hours ago

          I've had plenty of friends I've only known through the internet and a chat room. It's not the same as being in-person - I don't see a way to reliably turn out healthy adults unless kids talk to each other.

bemmu 14 hours ago

  Senior Raya Osagie, 16, said she has to “think more in class” because she used to Google answers or use artificial intelligence. “Now when we get computers, I actually have to [do] deep research instead of going straight to AI,” she said.
This kind of blew my mind a bit, as I had always imagined AI being used to do homework, hadn't occurred to me it could be used during a class as well.
  • ugh123 9 hours ago

    That just sounds like lazy teacher discipline in class. Decades ago we couldn't even use calculators on some tests, but now (or up until recently) they could practically have a computer in their hands all class?

    • phainopepla2 9 hours ago

      Allowing kids to have their phones in class, even if they weren't allowed to use them, was setting teachers up for failure. It's easy to call them lazy, but if you've ever tried to police the phone use of a bunch of screen-addicted adolescents you would understand. The calculator comparison is not a good one.

    • malnourish 8 hours ago

      I encourage you to seek first-hand accounts of what teaching in a contemporary public school classroom is like. Teacher discipline can account for so much.

    • zormino 6 hours ago

      When I was in university, I had a math teacher that brought extra chalk to class everyday because if he saw you on your phone, he'd snap a piece off and throw it at you pretty damn hard. Maybe that wouldn't exactly work in a high school but damn if Dr Murphy didn't have me paying attention in that class.

  • Razengan 9 hours ago

    The insistence of people, in every era, on staying in a previous technology tier instead of reforming society and culture around the present ubiquitous technology, doesn't really make sense.

    • QuercusMax 9 hours ago

      Are you saying that reading comprehension is an outdated technology?

      • Iulioh 9 hours ago

        Look, I had a zoomer colleague of mine ask GPT to solve a moral dilemma in a personality test at work...

        It's...rough out there.

      • lcnPylGDnU4H9OF 9 hours ago

        Surely reading comprehension is still required for, well, reading AI-generated text. Perhaps it's not their intention but I read an implication that using humans to source facts is outdated, which is... well, I'll just assume that I'm misunderstanding their perspective.

        • r2_pilot 4 hours ago

          > Surely reading comprehension is still required for, well, reading AI-generated text.

          Found the optimist. (no, it unfortunately not required. Imagine, if you will, the world's worst version of the Telephone game...)

          • lcnPylGDnU4H9OF 3 hours ago

            Sure, but the same failure mode exists for readers of human writing.

duderific 6 hours ago

> In the cafeteria, Ryan Tripathi, 16, was paging through “Lord of the Flies,” which he said is slow-going. “I'm just not used to reading,” he said. “I’m usually on my phone.”

Damn, that hits pretty hard.

  • Retr0id 2 hours ago

    Understandable, I never finished Lord of the Flies despite not having a smartphone at the time.

everdrive 16 hours ago

Hopefully society continues to develop healthy norms with regard to this sort of technology. Collectively it's taken us a while, but I think people generally are starting to get the picture. Smartphones are bad in a wide variety of ways, but even when people miss some of the nuance I think we can make progress regarding the minimization of their usage.

  • amelius 14 hours ago

    Some people will slap a label like "liberal" on "using my smartphone whenever the hell I want". And then people will think that's how it should be.

    • rootusrootus 14 hours ago

      An electronic version of coal rolling. "You can't tell me this is unhealthy, and I'm going to prove it!"

      • StarGrit 7 hours ago

        People "roll coal" it because it is kinda amusing to do it, and it is a middle finger towards people they perceive to be preachy.

        I accidentally "rolled coal" in my 90s Landrover because I was in totally the wrong gear going up a steep hill. It was amusing in the way of "oh shit! I kinda just blew a load of black smoke in the driver face behind me".

        Obviously, I don't do this deliberately.

    • Braxton1980 14 hours ago

      Sounds more like "freedom" which New York has taken away with some big government regulations.

      /S

  • thinkingtoilet 16 hours ago

    Here in MA there is a 'bell to bell' phone ban bill in the works. I'm very happy we're letting kids be kids again. There is no need for a phone during the school day.

    • 1659447091 10 hours ago

      And just to show how (US) universal this idea is becoming, a Texas law banning cellphones went into effect at the start of the school year.

      This happened at the same time a law requiring the Ten Commandments to be displayed in public school classrooms would have went into effect but was temporarily blocked while it works it's way through the courts [0]

      [Texas educators praise new school cellphone ban] https://www.texastribune.org/2025/09/10/texas-cell-phone-ban...

      [0] https://apnews.com/article/ten-commandments-bill-texas-schoo...

      • 1718627440 9 hours ago

        > how (US) universal

        I praise you for not defaulting to US-defaultism, which is quite common on HN, but this really seems to be universal. There are also regulations like this in Scandinavia, France, Germany is talking about it.

    • eitally 10 hours ago

      California just got strict about this, too. I have found a dramatic increase in the amount of interpersonal talking that's happening in school as a result, which is great!

      • SchemaLoad 8 hours ago

        Australia banned phones in schools 1-2 years ago and it's been widely recognised as a huge success. I think banning social media like facebook/tiktok/etc for kids would be a huge benefit as well. Leaving just IM/group chats for kids to directly talk to each other without scrolling a feed of ragebait and ai slop.

    • 0_____0 13 hours ago

      I'm expecting a kiddo this winter and my use of devices+my likely future kid's relationship with tech has really been on my mind. The fact that people are thinking through this and actually working on it puts me slightly more at ease.

      • eitally 10 hours ago

        You probably won't have much to worry about until you have to decide whether screen time for your kid (at age 3-4) is a reasonable trade-off for you and your partner to have peaceful time to yourselves. Then it'll rear it's head again, after lulling you into complacency, when the kid is middle school age and all their friends have smartphones. Then you have to decide whether the convenience factor (for you) of your kid having a device is worth the trade-off of... them having a device.

        Fwiw, my older two are 14 & 16 and we still use device control software on their phones and laptops. The younger of the two complains a bit periodically but the older one just accepts that it's the way it is and gets on with his life [most of the time].

        I personally advise you not to let your young kid get into e-gaming. Things like Fortnite, Roblox and Minecraft are gateways to increased device usage, and the benefits are (again, imho) not remotely worth it nor irreplaceable by much healthier alternatives.

        Fun tidbit: my 8yo has a Kindle Fire and we've let her have Netflix & Disney+ installed on it. She also uses the Kindle & Libby apps to read voraciously, and Khan Academy for math. When she watches streaming media, though, she frequently watches it on mute with subtitles. That shocked me to see, and I asked her about it. She's 100% cool with that and appreciate the "privacy" of being able to watch things without other people meddling in her business. Shrug.

        • SchemaLoad 8 hours ago

          Banning a 16 year old from minecraft is so far beyond reasonable imo. I'd agree with not giving young kids ipads and walking away. But what sounds like a blanket ban on gaming is absurd.

        • kelnos 3 hours ago

          Serious question (I don't have kids of my own): before smartphones and tablets and the ubiquity of laptops and computers, what did parents do to get some peaceful time to themselves?

          It's hard to believe that parents were only able to achieve this during the past 15-20 years.

          (When I was a kid in the 80s and 90s, I spent plenty of time outdoors with my friends in the neighborhood, and also inside, in front of my Nintendo, either with friends or without. Not sure how much peace my parents got, but I assume it was non-zero.)

          • SchemaLoad 2 hours ago

            What era are you talking about? Later than the 90s had computers and game consoles. Before that it was going outside and digging holes, throwing stones.

        • Yeul 10 hours ago

          Parents have always wanted time for themselves. There are Americans alive today who will tell you that they used to play outside from dusk to dawn and only saw their parents at dinner.

    • supportengineer 7 hours ago

      >> There is no need for a phone during the school day

      I see you don't have kids yourself. You need to sync up with them when after-school plans change.

      • kelnos 2 hours ago

        We got by just fine during the school day for decades (centuries?) before smartphones existed, and we can continue to do so without them.

  • causal 16 hours ago

    Hopefully as a society we can also learn the lesson that tech companies cannot be trusted to deliver what's best for us.

    • chronciger 15 hours ago

      > Hopefully as a society we can also learn the lesson that tech companies cannot be trusted to deliver what's best for us.

      If society were ignorant, then it’s forgivable. But society is not ignorant.

      We know tech companies deliver things bad for us (lies and manipulation).

      And we knowingly choose it, over the good (truth).

    • 9rx 14 hours ago

      Why would anyone expect them to deliver what is best for us when the purpose of a company is to deliver what others want?

      • array_key_first 11 hours ago

        Because social media sites like Facebook literally said they're going to make the world better, by connecting more people and empowering more ideas.

        It was all bullshit of course, but people did believe it, myself included. Just 15 years ago the outlook of social media was much more optimistic.

        • supportengineer 7 hours ago

          They could have gone down the path of being a service with a monthly subscription. Instead of making the customer become the product.

          Imagine an alternate universe where, since you were paying them, they kept you safe and secure online, and kept the bad actors away.

          • 9rx 5 hours ago

            The only offering that possibly might have been compelling enough to charge for was Messenger if it existed in a vacuum, but there were already numerous services offering much the same for free (e.g. MSN, ICQ, AIM), and when others realized that is what the people actually wanted, many more immediately threw their hat in the ring (e.g. iMessage). There would have been no practical hope of it making it as a paid service.

          • crummy 6 hours ago

            assuming they were able to acquire customers and dominate the world with that business model, would that have prevented them from doing algorithmic feeds and promoting clickbait and poisoning politics and the rest?

            sure, people would have been able to cancel their monthly facebook subscriptions if they didn't like that stuff. but we can effectively do that now just by not using it.

        • 9rx 10 hours ago

          > Just 15 years ago the outlook of social media was much more optimistic.

          Those who forget Usenet are doomed to repeat it, I suppose.

          > It was all bullshit of course

          Or, more likely, what was dreamed of ended up being incorrect. Like we learn every time we try social media, people don't actually want to be social online. That takes work and the vast majority of people don't want to spend their free time doing work. They want to sit back, relax, and be entertained by the professionals.

          As before, businesses can only survive if they give others exactly what they want, which doesn't necessarily overlap with what is good for them. A fast food burger isn't good for you, but it is a good business to be in because it is something many people want. Arguably small communities like HN with exceptionally motivated people can make it work to some extent, but that is not something that captures the masses.

          It's not coincidence that those who tried to make a go of social media ~15 years ago have all turned into what are little more than TV channels with a small mix of newspaper instead. That is where the want is actually found at the moment. Social media didn't work in the 1980s, the 2010s, and it won't work in the 2080s either. It's is not something that appeals to humans (generally speaking).

          • RyanHamilton 9 hours ago

            Can you provide an example of where facebook tried to do what most people would consider good that also required any >1% kind of sacrifice or risk on their part? My impression is their moto was win at any cost and ask forgiveness later (not because we mean that either but because it will reduce the legal penalties and make us look like normal humans.) In some ways watching Mark reminds me of the infamous cigarette cartel testifying.

            • 9rx 6 hours ago

              > Can you provide an example of where facebook tried to do what most people would consider good

              They gave the social media thing an honest try for a short period of time. And it even came with a lot of fanfare initially as people used it as the "internet's telephone book" to catch up with those they lost touch with.

              But once initial pleasantries were exchanged, people soon realized why they lost touch in the first place, and most everyone started to see that continually posting pictures of their cat is a stupid use of time. And so, Facebook and the like recognized that nobody truly wanted social media, gave up on the idea, and quickly pivoted into something else entirely.

              Social media is a great idea in some kind of theoretical way — I can see why you bought into the idea — but you can't run a business on great theoretical ideas. You can't even run a distributed public service without profit motive on great theoretical ideas, as demonstrated by Usenet. You have to actually serve what people actually want, which isn't necessarily (perhaps not even often) what is good for them.

    • rc5150 13 hours ago

      This is the same logic that has parents buying games like GTA for their prepubescent children and being dumbfounded that the kids are exposed to violent images.

      While we can definitely point the blame at tech companies that manipulate algorithms, engage in dark patterns, etc, it's ultimately up to the consumer to consume judiciously and moderate their own well being. Nobody ever asked Apple or Google to "deliver what's best" for society. What's best for society is a collection of rational, intelligent, and accountable adults.

      • mrguyorama 11 hours ago

        America has an entire political party who runs a party line that unregulated businesses will naturally do what's "best" because of "free market mumble mumble". They even sometimes outright insist that "best" in that context means "best for humans and society", and that any attempt to constrain that will be Communism and cause all of society to collapse.

        >What's best for society is a collection of rational, intelligent, and accountable adults.

        That same party insists that you should be able to choose to enroll your child in a school that does nothing but teach weird christian doctrines, and outright lies like "Evolution is controversial" or "Continental drift is not proven" or "The USA is a Christian country". They demonstrably want to be able to direct my tax dollars to these institutions, based on their choice.

        Everyone should spend time checking out what the tens of millions of self reported fundamentalist "Christian" americans pay money for. There is an entire alternative media economy and it is horrifying. It exists to reinforce tons of outright false and delusional narratives, like an imagined persecution complex against christians.

        If you think those tens of millions of Americans don't have power or sway in this country, they are literally the reason why visa and mastercard keep shutting down porn businesses (the higher fraud claim is just false and probably a lie, ask me how I know!) and the current House majority leader is their guy, as well as Trump's previous VP, as well as maybe technically JD Vance, as well as like Joe Rogan, who insists that AI is the second coming of christ because it doesn't have a mother, just like christ. Not joking, that is a real thing that Joe Rogan has made millions of dollars saying to over 20 million people. Oh, and at least one Supreme Court Justice.

        • justinclift 7 hours ago

          > the higher fraud claim is just false and probably a lie, ask me how I know!

          How do you know? :)

sidewndr46 16 hours ago

This is really funny for me to read because as a kid we were prohibited from having telecommunications devices while at school entirely. We were also prohibited from speaking during lunchtime. Our lunch was most definitely not loud.

  • throwup238 15 hours ago

    You can always tell a Milford man.

  • jabroni_salad 15 hours ago

    When I was in elementary school one of the teachers would hold a decibel meter and subtract minutes off of recess if we got above a whispered conversation.

    • bluGill 15 hours ago

      In class that is good. However at lunch kids should be talking to other kids. I know many teachers/schools are control freaks and so they would do such things, but it was always evil.

      • 1718627440 9 hours ago

        Have you never been to a room full of people/children? If there aren't these 'control freaks' in the room, then it gets louder and louder until to the limit where nobody can understand anything while all are shouting. It's surprisingly fast, about ~2 minutes to the maximum/stable loudness. This 'control freaks' are the requirement to allow children to have a conversation.

        • bluGill 9 hours ago

          in small doses, but I've seen them go overboard to the point where we are better off without.

          • 1718627440 8 hours ago

            If the teacher completely forbids talking, they will just talk right around the corner, or write on paper. They will be just unable to impose it on the children for long.

  • supportengineer 7 hours ago

    I think my parents went to this school. Did the nuns slap you with rulers?

sp4cec0wb0y 13 hours ago

It is interesting to see how rapidly social fabrics deteriorated when smartphones came around. I was in highschool from 2014-2018, and for most of the years, I could remember everyone socializing during lunch, break times, and even in the classroom. Which is odd because we had access to smartphones, airpods, and laptops. Perhaps it was because we spent the majority of our lives without them still? Seems to have gotten a lot worse since then.

  • chis 9 hours ago

    That's an interesting data point. I think covid did a lot of damage too. Kids spending formative years stuck in their room texting just didn't get the chance to build basic social skills and habits.

    But it's hard to separate out that effect from just earlier and earlier exposure to modern phones. The class of 2018 was ~10 when the iphone 4 came out. And even that wasn't nearly as addicting as modern phones - it was tiny, and didn't have vertical scrolling video (except for Vine, briefly).

    • NoPicklez 13 minutes ago

      It's also difficult to build social skills if your peers around you are stuck looking down at their phones as opposed to looking at those around them.

      If you're wanting to meet new people and chat with new people but a large chunk of them are sitting on their phones it makes it more difficult.

  • sakompella 2 hours ago

    pandemic factor is i think critical here

  • squigz 8 hours ago

    Smartphones have been around much longer than before 2014. My takeaway from this is that people just always think it's worse than what they went through.

  • ls612 6 hours ago

    No it was Covid. But one party’s dogma was to close schools and force all socialization to be online for almost two years and rather than admit it was wrong and harmful they blame phones instead.

    • BoiledCabbage 6 hours ago

      > In 2020, school systems in the United States began to close down in March because of the spread of COVID-19

      I definitely know who was president in March of 2020. Before they lost their election 8 months later.

      Somehow it seems a lot of people don't.

      • ls612 5 hours ago

        It isn’t who was president it is who supported keeping schools closed.

kevinfiol 14 hours ago

As a millennial, the concept of public school lunch not being loud is weird to me! I always remember the constant chatter of school lunch. Definitely had my share of hearty shared laughs, and heated conversations during lunchtime.

  • DavidPeiffer 9 hours ago

    I graduated in 2011. Smart phones were rare, but dumb phones were quite common.

    The lunch room was quite loud. To keep people from being in their own world on their phones too much, my lunch table had a rule that if you laugh out loud at something on your phone, you had to share it with the table. It was quite effective, though somewhat embarrassing from time to time.

    • mc3301 6 hours ago

      In the early 2000s, when everyone had a phone but no smart phones, we had this "thing" at the college bar:

      Sitting around the table with some beers and friends, everyone put their phones in the center of the table. First one to touch their phone had to buy the next round of drinks. It was effective. I've tried similar recently, but people are less enthusiastic about the idea.

causal 16 hours ago

It makes me so sad that it's possible for technology to steal the need to talk and play, even from our youth. If you have little kids you know how frantically they NEED to yap and play. I hold such horror for anything that would sap such life away.

  • AndrewDucker 16 hours ago

    It varies a lot. My kids will run around and play given the opportunity, but when they arrive home at 6pm from after-school club, completely exhausted, I think it's fair that they get to collapse in front of a screen for a bit.

    • IAmBroom 16 hours ago

      For my generation (just post-Boomer), it was the TV.

      For my parents, it was the radio.

      For their parents, reading out loud for everyone to enjoy ("Mr. Dickens has published another episode of The Pickwick Papers!"), or playing instruments.

      • AndrewDucker 16 hours ago

        Yup. I'm Gen X (1972), and I'd read a book, watch TV, or (once we hit the mid-80s) I had a home computer.

        • technothrasher 15 hours ago

          I spent much of my free childhood hours from about 1976 to 1988 in front of a computer screen. But I was certainly not in the mainstream.

          • AndrewDucker 15 hours ago

            I don't think the mainstream people end up on HN.

            • Kenji 15 hours ago

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      • wagwang 8 hours ago

        These things are not remotely comparable. Smartphones, especially social media double depression and suicide rates among teens.

      • bix6 14 hours ago

        Music is medicine. I’ve been taking guitar for a few years now and it’s pure joy.

        • bluGill 13 hours ago

          Problem is for the first month of lessons it is not joy, it is hard frustrating work where you sound bad and know it. Even when you are good lessons often are pushing you to do hard things and so they are not pure joy.

          My son has been taking violin for years, is really good, and loves it - but most of his practice time is still really hard pieces that need a lot of practice of the hard parts (stitching between 5th and 2nd position...) and he would prefer to sit down at the piano (he stopped lessons years ago) and play an easy piece.

          • bix6 11 hours ago

            Practicing is always hard and I struggle to find time or energy to push myself but my goal was to be able to play basic chords and make up silly songs around the campfire so everything else is just a bonus.

    • 2OEH8eoCRo0 15 hours ago

      Even then, individual screens is isolating.

      Collapsing in front of the TV with the family was still quality time enjoying something together.

      • mister_mort 14 hours ago

        For a lot of young people the screen is social - the equivalent of the long after-school phonecalls from the before times. Be it games or just Discord, it's still comms.

        • HeinzStuckeIt 14 hours ago

          The screen is also a continual, addictive flow of short video clips that are largely designed to sell product, stoke FOMO, make people feel inadequate about beauty, etc.

          Observe young people using their phones, and you can see the social use is often just occasionally switching from TikTok to a chat app, dashing off a one-line message, and then going right back to TikTok. Big difference from having actual long phone conversations with friends after school.

        • bluGill 13 hours ago

          Most of the social of screens is when you get to a place without them you have something common to talk about. "how about [local sports team]", "what did you think about [whatever happened on latest soap opera]", "lets pretend I'm [some character on cartoon]". It is all shorthand for we have something in common and can skip getting to know each other.

      • stronglikedan 14 hours ago

        Individual screens let parents get some peace and quiet for a while. As with everything, moderation is the key, not abstention.

      • vel0city 14 hours ago

        Individual screens can be isolating, they can also be somewhat social. I agree, not a complete replacement for other social activities for sure. But, as a kid with internet connected videogames growing up, those internet connected games kept me playing with friends from school and other groups even if we weren't able to physically get together that evening.

        Meanwhile, my brother would often go dig in and read a fiction book in isolation. Which is fine and great and all. I'm definitely not taking a dig at reading a book in any way. But, its not like only screens lead to isolation. There's plenty of tasks one can do at home that then become isolating.

  • brainzap 16 hours ago

    The play-based childhood is over; the phone-based childhood is here.

    • Cthulhu_ 16 hours ago

      Not universally though, the local skate park and sports fields see plenty of activity.

      • darrylb42 14 hours ago

        Just until they are shutdown to put in pickleball for retirees.

      • chronciger 15 hours ago

        > Not universally though, the local skate park and sports fields see plenty of activity.

        Sure if “at least one match” means activity.

        Back in the day, you couldn’t find parking for several blocks radius around every public sports field.

    • hrimfaxi 15 hours ago

      Thankfully that state is far from evenly-distributed.

    • tyleo 16 hours ago

      It’s here but do we think it’s better? Should it stay?

      As a society we do get to answer these questions.

      • LeifCarrotson 15 hours ago

        As a society we've proven over and over again that we're unable to solve these problems that require coordination against greed. We've pulled the smartphone out of Pandora's box.

        There's a 500B industry selling the phones, 2.5 trillion selling telecom services, trillions more selling social media, and most of the economy involves selling their products over the internet. Those are some HUGE incentives to maintain the status quo, or get people even more addicted yet.

        I don't think our society is capable of answering that question and starting a Dune-style "Butlerian Jihad" and destroying all machines-that-think.

        • naIak 15 hours ago

          No, the issue is that most parents don’t want to do any parenting. There’s a product that makes children shut up, of course it’s selling out.

havblue 13 hours ago

I'm guessing that teachers never wanted smartphones in class in the first place and that this was just about pushing back against the helicopter parents.

  • wavemode 10 hours ago

    I'm astounded that this has become a thing. My school had a zero-tolerance "if I see it, I confiscate it" phone policy. And your parent had to come retrieve it.

    There are kids who lost their phones because it accidentally fell out of a pocket lol

  • 1718627440 9 hours ago

    I'm out of school for 3 years. For most of the time smartphones existed, but were forbidden in class. It were the teachers, who allowed it and even encouraged it to be used in class. When the students are already staring at a screen during class, they continue doing so after. When they do not, they don't (at least initially). In my final years, it was obvious who thought about class and who was completely mind-absent, by looking who looked at an school-supplied iPad. > 90% of these people were just playing games during the whole lesson. This was known by everyone in the classroom and the teachers just ignored them.

  • bryanlarsen 12 hours ago

    Kids have phones for "safety" reasons. It's pretty irrational, but hard to push back against without help from on high.

    • ryandrake 7 hours ago

      The "Safety" excuse is bullshit. What safety problem could exist in a school that a child with a cell phone can solve? Fire? School administrators will call the fire department. Intruder? School administrators will call the police. School shooter? Same. There's nothing that a child with a cell phone will fix.

      • bryanlarsen 3 hours ago

        Yeah, I think people are downvoting me because they don't realize I meant what you're saying when I called it irrational.

zkmon 7 hours ago

Why should articles like these always start with some fictional story like a novel? The actual news is buried somewhere half-way after the throw-away story.

  • StarGrit 7 hours ago

    It is following a magazine style. This is partly to elicit an emotional reaction and partly I suspect because the copy writer is bored and wishes they were writing novels instead.

JumpCrisscross 13 hours ago

It’s fascinating to see a practice that was previously limited to Silicon Valley executives become first a national class signifier and now go mainstream.

We haven’t extensively studied how social media and smartphones affect a kid’s brain. It’s becoming abundantly clear the former is inappropriate for kids and adolescents. It’s emerging that the latter is at least destructive for non-adolescent children.

rs186 6 hours ago

Is it just me who finds it annoying that some people like using the pattern "make something <adjective> again"? Like, you don't have any other choice?

danlugo92 13 hours ago

Smartphones are this century's cigarrettes.

cramcgrab 16 hours ago

No more kids cameras in the classroom

  • leptons 9 hours ago

    This does nothing to ban cameras. The fact that a smartphone has a camera doesn't mean cameras are banned. You can still bring a standalone camera to school.

    • 1718627440 9 hours ago

      Which would cause a lot of questions if you pull it out in the classroom.

jollyllama 16 hours ago

I don't think smartphones should be allowed in schools but as someone who was dumbfounded by the lunchtime cacophony of my peers, I wouldn't lead with that as a triumph.

  • browningstreet 16 hours ago

    Those of us who hate the noise of boisterous social conversation are the outliers, but it is a sign of their healthy social environment. I personally was always able to find a quiet spot.

    My early dinner, empty restaurant habit is the adult persistence of my teenage preferences, and I don't expect my personal tolerance to be their norm.

  • Loughla 13 hours ago

    The problem, when it comes to smartphone bans, isn't the kids, believe it or not.

    My experience (consulting with multiple k-12 institutions) is that it's the parents. If the parents can't be in CONSTANT contact with their kids, it's a problem. People are scared of everything all the time. It's not great.

  • bluGill 13 hours ago

    Schools should provide quiet spaces for kids who don't want noise during lunch. The library should always be open during lunch hours. There should always be an outdoor space for those who want it (unless there is lightening - I assuming you know how to dress for any other weather).

    Or we can go the opposite way: for kids who want to be loud during lunch there should be a place for them to do that. Wanting to be loud it too common to ignore, and it isn't like perfume/peanuts/... where we have to force a policy for a minority.

  • cmxch 15 hours ago

    Tech will prevail on the long term, even with these misguided bans.

    • 1718627440 9 hours ago

      The smartphone OSs hide all that "tech". They are not more educational (by themselves) than interactive advertisement streams.

m463 8 hours ago

title should include "school" like in original article:

"NY school phone ban has made lunch loud again"

gostsamo 10 hours ago

The ban will be revoked after Meta sues for business damages caused by unlawful government interference with their customer acquisition operations. /s

  • 1718627440 9 hours ago

    We need to sue Meta (et al.) for social damage caused by unlawful acquisition of addicts from the public education system. (My personal opinion)

tootie 15 hours ago

So I have eye witness accounts of this lunchroom saying that's not true. The lunchroom was deafeningly loud before the ban.

This school is also a magnet school with only high-performing kids who did not suffer from distraction problems and who actively made use of phones during class for classwork.

  • schuyler2d 13 hours ago

    All my teacher friends (before this article) had joyously reported on lunch rooms being loud again (and even fights and lol, sex) happening.... But in a good way. If kids aren't getting into some trouble then they're not interacting and learning about society and human nature enough

  • donohoe 14 hours ago

    I have a kid in a non-magnet HS and one in a magnet HS (in NYC). This article isn't off-the-mark but I would say there will always be variations by school.

Der_Einzige 11 hours ago

A whole lot of people who got to their great tech jobs by commoditizing their screen addictions (I.e a significant amount of this very website) are massively harmed by these policies. I can’t believe that the folks here nearly universally like this.

We should celebrate screen addiction and not fight it.

  • 1718627440 9 hours ago

    I learned to use a computer, by doing things that are possible air-gapped. Using a shell, etc. I did not by scrolling through social media, while all my peers treat computers like magic and lack basic knowledge, because they only know how to scroll through apps.

    Even today I learn and produce the most when the network is down.

bfkwlfkjf 16 hours ago

The school president is 17?

  • IAmBroom 16 hours ago

    Yes, the president of the student-elected body of mostly-powerless "school government."

    • JJMcJ 14 hours ago

      The student-elected body is often called the Student Council.

      Sometimes each grade level will have a class president.

      Varies from school to school for the details.

  • IncreasePosts 14 hours ago

    That's just an elected student position that usually interfaces with the school leadership about student issues - it isn't the vice principal/principal/superintendent that run the school(s)

legel 9 hours ago

All of this read and written on a smartphone.

Reversion to the past is not preparation for the future.

ForgetItJake an hour ago

Why is it that Hacker News is overwhelmingly liberal on most issues but when it comes to teenagers/children incredibly authoritarian and big government?